“We would never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world,” wrote Helen Keller. How I wish she were wrong. Disappointments leave us with the unpleasant task of squashing, crushing, and pinching lemons to extract any and all juice. […]
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Exploring the Pain and Pleasure Principle The pain-pleasure principle lies at the core of everything you do, and of everything you are. Your beliefs, values and psychological rules are all built upon this principle. The decisions you make, the actions you take, and the habits you […]
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Here’s How to Embrace Uncertainty Progress always involves risks. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first. — Frederick B. Wilcox — Therefore always ask yourself: Moving forward, how could I minimize the risks? How does one become a butterfly? You must […]
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Cognitive Distortions Aaron Beck first proposed the theory behind cognitive distortions and David Burns was responsible for popularizing it with common names and examples for the distortions. 1. Filtering. We take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. […]
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What Success Demands No matter what goals or ambitions you might have, there is one thing certain: There is a price you must pay to get what you want in life. In fact, there’s no sidestepping the fact that any type of […]
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Exploring Your Unhelpful Thoughts Whenever you experience any kind of emotion, this emotion is always accompanied by a set of thoughts. These thoughts are constructed of words and statements that often manifest in the form of questions. You ask these questions in order […]
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1. Pay attention to thoughts. More than I should, I let my my mind wander away from the present. Thoughts can become so clear and certain that they seem like fact — even when they are about things that haven’t happened yet. When I realize […]
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1) Refuse to admit that mistakes had been done Some people are so egoistic that they will never accept the fact that they had made a mistake. For this type of people, mistakes are signs of weakness and being the egoist that they are, they will […]
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Have you ever felt mentally blocked from finding a solution to a problem you are facing? Most of us have had this experience, and it can be quite frustrating. Writers call it writer’s block, and the rest of us call it stumped, stymied, confused, etc. Brainstorming […]
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How to Handle Difficult People A bully at your work is difficult for you to face. He is demanding you do part of his job without pay or credit. How do you handle it? Your neighbors are constantly fighting. They wake you up in the middle […]
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