When your wife is depressed after giving birth
Having a baby is a time of joy and excitement for many women. But, for some, giving birth can prompt deep feelings of anxiety and sadness.
When these feelings are long-lasting and interfere with daily life and relationships, they’re known as postpartum depression (PPD). Don’t ignore them.
“It’s common to experience constant worry that something is going to happen after the birth of a child, and these feelings are often irrational,”
“Overwhelming guilt is also a common feeling, since most women recognize that something is not right, and they believe they should be feeling excited and happy. But, they can’t seem to get on top of their depression,” she says.
PPD also strikes women who experience a pregnancy loss or stillbirth.
Knowing how frequently PPD occurs and what it looks like can help alert friends and relatives or convince a woman suffering from this condition to get help.
How common is PPD?
A less severe form of PPD, often called postpartum blues or “baby blues,” affects up to 50 percent of women, but symptoms usually disappear after two weeks.
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Up to 15 percent of women develop PPD symptoms that persist beyond two weeks. Among mothers who have experienced PPD previously, the risk increases – up to 50 percent develop this type of depression again, Dr. Starck says.
Some women are more at risk
Although any woman can develop PPD, there are several factors that increase the risk level:
- A drop in estrogen or progesterone levels
- Previous experience with depression and anxiety (personal or family history)
- Marital dysfunction
- Acute stressors (e.g., the death of a loved one)
- Exposure to toxins or pollution
- Poor diet
- Low social support
- Difficult infant temperament
- Expectations of motherhood don’t align with reality
Signs of PPD
Women suffering from PPD notice a wide variety of signs and symptoms:
They can feel sleepy, but often are unable to actually fall asleep when the opportunity arises. They also may have a lack of motivation and appetite. Commonly, they feel overwhelmed and/or inadequate. Chest pressure and heart palpitations are other symptoms. And they may have crying jags and become easily tearful.
Effects of postpartum depression
PPD can negatively affect more than the mother as an individual. It can also lead to:
- Limited bonding between mother and child
- A breakdown in relationships with significant others and family members
- Weight loss
- A drop in milk supply, for those who are breastfeeding
- Increased fussiness in the newborn
Show of support is key
Many women who develop PPD find it difficult to talk about the problem or recognize what’s happening. In those cases, those around her can help, Dr. Starck says.
“If you suspect a loved one is experiencing depression, it’s important to be supportive and acknowledge the challenges of having a newborn,” she says.
If someone you know shows signs of PPD, take these 5 steps:
- Encourage her to seek medical care
- Introduce her to someone who has also experienced and worked through PPD
- Minimize the time she spends alone (at least until symptoms improve or treatment takes effect)
- Help build her confidence
- Reduce her responsibilities
