{"id":4805,"date":"2014-07-19T21:38:54","date_gmt":"2014-07-19T18:38:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/?p=4805"},"modified":"2014-07-19T21:42:27","modified_gmt":"2014-07-19T18:42:27","slug":"avoid-teaching-your-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/avoid-teaching-your-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoid teaching your kids!"},"content":{"rendered":"

1. It’s OK to disrespect your body.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Do you abuse your body by overeating or going on crash diets? Drink too much alcohol? Say cruel things about your appearance, when you look in the mirror?<\/span> Your child is learning how to value his or her body by watching your example. What kind of example do you want to set?<\/span> 2. Relationships with electronic devices matter more than human relationships.<\/strong> Do you sleep with your smartphone practically tucked under your pillow? Flip through emails on your iPad when your partner is telling a story at the dinner table?<\/span> If so, then you\u2019re teaching your kids that intimate involvement with an electronic screen is more important than people sharing quality time with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

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3. Dessert is a reward for being “good.”<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

 
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Ever say something like this to your child? \u201cIf you\u2019re a good girl at Grandma’s, you can have a cookie when we get home.\u201d Many well-intentioned parents bribe kids with food. It\u2019s tempting to offer a treat as a reward for good behavior. It\u2019s an easy, quick way to get kids to cooperate \u2026 at least, for a little while. But it\u2019s a dangerous lesson to teach \u2014 one that can result in unhealthy eating patterns that are tough to change later, as an adult.<\/p>\n

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4. It’s OK to cheat … as long as you don’t get caught.<\/strong><\/span> \"communication_skill\" Here’s an example: \u201cOops, the waiter forgot to charge us for your meal. Guess we\u2019re getting a free dinner, tonight! Come on, let\u2019s go. Hurry!\u201d If you teach your kid that cheating is OK (as long as you don\u2019t get caught) you\u2019re doing your kid a tremendous disservice. Your kid is far more likely to cheat on a test, violate the law, or be unfaithful to a partner later in life. Because you\u2019ve taught them that there aren\u2019t any consequences \u2026 as long as you cover your tracks.<\/p>\n

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5. It\u2019s OK to flake out.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Do you tell people that you\u2019ll call them and then you don\u2019t? Do you say that you\u2019ll finish something by a certain time, and then flake out? When you consistently break your word, you\u2019re teaching your child that personal integrity doesn\u2019t mean much, and reliability isn\u2019t important.<\/p>\n

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6. Sex can be used as a bargaining chip.<\/strong> Do you withhold sex from your partner as a \u201cpunishment?\u201d Or lay on tons of affection once he (or she) has done what you want? Your kid might be too young to understand exactly what\u2019s going on, but he or she will pick up on the underlying message:\u00a0Sex can be used to control people and get what I want<\/em><\/p>\n

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.<\/em> 7. Other people\u2019s needs and desires are more important than your own.<\/strong><\/span> Do you hold back on sharing who you really are? Do you keep quiet, instead of asking for what you truly want? It\u2019s natural to want to be liked and accepted. But when you don\u2019t follow your heart, you\u2019re sending the message to your kid that what you truly desire doesn\u2019t matter. When it comes to your child\u2019s future\u00a0happiness<\/a>\u00a0and satisfaction, that\u2019s one of the most dangerous lessons of all.\u2026 If you\u2019re reading this and feeling guilty because you\u2019ve done things that you shouldn\u2019t have, don\u2019t be hard on yourself! (Punishing yourself for making a mistake \u2014 that\u2019s yet another lesson that you don\u2019t want to teach your kids!) Instead, make a commitment to become\u00a0more aware<\/a>\u00a0of how you behave, and celebrate the important changes that you\u2019re going to make. Your kid learns from you, every day. From your words and actions. From your presence and absence. From the way you treat yourself and others. You can choose to change the lesson plan \u2026 starting now. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 ref: http:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

1. It’s OK to disrespect your body.     Do you abuse your body by overeating or going on crash diets? Drink too much alcohol? Say cruel things about your appearance, when you look in the mirror? Your child is learning how to value his or her body by watching your example. What kind of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[427],"tags":[834,761,1404,844,808,788,601,49,1403,1405,489,1383],"class_list":["post-4805","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-427","tag-avoid","tag-avoidance","tag-cildren","tag-confidence","tag-emotional","tag-habits","tag-improve","tag-individual-psychothterapy","tag-kids","tag-lesson","tag-seragpsych-com","tag-teaching","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4805","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4805"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4805\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4816,"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4805\/revisions\/4816"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4805"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4805"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}