{"id":8692,"date":"2017-08-16T23:02:39","date_gmt":"2017-08-16T20:02:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/?p=8692"},"modified":"2017-08-16T23:03:05","modified_gmt":"2017-08-16T20:03:05","slug":"10-thinking-errors-that-will-crush-your-mental-strength","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seragpsych.com\/wordpress\/10-thinking-errors-that-will-crush-your-mental-strength\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Thinking Errors That Will Crush Your Mental Strength"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mental strength requires a three-pronged approach\u2014managing our thoughts<\/strong>,\u00a0regulating our emotions<\/strong>, and\u00a0behaving productively despite our circumstances<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

While all three areas can be a struggle, it’s often our thoughts that make it most difficult to be mentally strong.<\/p>\n

As we go about our daily routines, our internal monologue narrates our experience. Our self-talk guides our behavior and influences the way we interact with others. It also plays a major role in how you feel about yourself, other people, and the world in general.<\/p>\n

Quite often, however, our conscious thoughts aren’t realistic; they’re irrational and inaccurate. Believing our irrational thoughts can lead to problems including communication issues, relationship problems, and unhealthy decisions.<\/p>\n

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1. All-or-Nothing Thinking<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nSometimes we see things as being black or white: Perhaps you have two categories of coworkers in your mind\u2014the good ones and the bad ones. Or maybe you look at each project as either a success or a failure. Recognize the shades of gray, rather than putting things in terms of all good or all bad.<\/p>\n

2. Overgeneralizing<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nIt’s easy to take one particular event and generalize it to the rest of our life. If you failed to close one deal, you may decide, “I’m bad at closing deals.” Or if you are treated poorly by one family member, you might think, “Everyone in my family is rude.” Take notice of times when an incident may apply to only one specific situation, instead of all other areas of life.<\/p>\n

3. Filtering Out the Positive<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nIf nine good things happen, and one bad thing, sometimes we filter out the good and hone in on the bad. Maybe we declare we had a bad day, despite the positive events that occurred. Or maybe we look back at our performance and declare it was terrible because we made a single mistake. Filtering out the positive can prevent you from establishing a realistic outlook on a situation. Develop a balanced outlook by noticing both the positive and the negative.<\/p>\n

4.Mind Reading<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nWe can never be sure what someone else is thinking. Yet, everyone occasionally assumes they know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. Thinking things like, “He must have thought I was stupid at the meeting,” makes inferences that aren’t necessarily based on reality. Remind yourself that you may not be making accurate guesses about other people’s perceptions.<\/p>\n

5. Catastrophizing<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nSometimes we think things are much worse than they actually are. If you fall short on meeting your financial goals one month you may think, “I’m going to end up bankrupt,” or “I’ll never have enough money to retire,” even though there’s no evidence that the situation is nearly that dire. It can be easy to get swept up into catastrophizing a situation once your thoughts become negative. When you begin predicting doom and gloom, remind yourself that there are many other potential outcomes.<\/p>\n

6. Emotional Reasoning<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nOur emotions aren’t always based on reality but we often\u00a0assume<\/em>\u00a0those feelings are rational. If you’re worried about making a career change, you might assume, “If I’m this scared about it, I just shouldn’t change jobs.” Or, you may be tempted to assume, “If I feel like a loser, I must\u00a0be<\/em>\u00a0a loser.” It’s essential to recognize that emotions, just like our thoughts, aren’t always based on the facts.<\/p>\n

7. Labeling<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nLabeling involves putting a name to something. Instead of thinking, “He made a mistake,” you might label your neighbor as “an idiot.” Labeling people and experiences place them into categories that are often based on isolated incidents. Notice when you try to categorize things and work to avoid placing mental labels on everything.<\/p>\n

8. Fortune-telling<\/strong><\/p>\n

Although none of us knows what will happen in the future, we sometimes like to try our hand at fortune-telling. We think things like, “I’m going to embarrass myself tomorrow,” or “If I go on a diet, I’ll probably just gain weight.” These types of thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies if you’re not careful. When you’re predicting doom and gloom, remind yourself of all the other possible outcomes.<\/p>\n

9. Personalization<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nAs much as we’d like to say we don’t think the world revolves around us, it’s easy to personalize everything. If a friend doesn’t call back, you may assume, “She must be mad at me,” or if a co-worker is grumpy, you might conclude, “He doesn’t like me.” When you catch yourself personalizing situations, take time to point out other possible factors that may be influencing the circumstances.<\/p>\n

10. Unreal Ideal<\/strong>
\nMaking unfair comparisons about ourselves and other people can ruin our motivation. Looking at someone who has achieved much success and thinking, “I should have been able to do that,” isn’t helpful, especially if that person had some lucky breaks or competitive advantages along the way. Rather than measuring your life against someone else’s, commit to focusing on your own path to success.<\/p>\n

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